Love isnt selfish: Love is allowing another's want to trump our need. Our selfishness will always inflate our wants into needs while deflating someone's need into a want. Christ's love is always about seeing equality among people if not taking an opporuntity to promote someone's want above ourselves. Christians see unselfish love in action though a balanced generous lifestyle towards God, others and ourselves. We see balance specificailly in our schedules and budgets.
A note from Pastor Wes:
In this message I make reference to seeker senstiive churches. I want to clarify that I meant that the far left of the spectrum is a seeker DRIVEN church: A church that's 100% interested in providing for the seeker vs God.
Seeker sensitive churches are those that are aware of the seeker and live in the tension of providing for them while also worshipping God.